Love is often a strong, arguably the strongest, form of expression. Expressing such a strong feeling or desire can sometimes feel like a tentative task, opening a lover to a potential rejection or embarrassment. Love is complex in nature and houses a string of emotions, so it’s natural for people to be hesitant in revealing some of their deepest feelings of affection. At times, it is even meant to be guarded like a sacred gem, an intangible exclusivity, an expression with great value. In Plutarch’s work of giving advice to married couples, he upholds the importance of guarding such deep expressions. His account on this advice starts with Theano, who accidentally exposed her hand in public and asserted it was not public property after being told it was beautiful. Plutarch continues and says, “Not only the arms but the words of a modest women must never be public property, She should be shy with her speech as with her body, and guard it against strangers. Feelings, character, and disposition can all be seen in a woman’s talk.” Plutarch advises on being careful with how women should present themselves, orally and physically. This idea of being reserved can also be seen, or rather heard, in Kanye’s song “Love Lockdown.” As the title of the song may suggest, Kanye is advising someone to keep their love hidden throughout the song. One way to read his lyrics is that the person he is referring to should not show their love, unless they want to get hurt. Kanye specifically states he isn’t loving her the way he wanted to, pointing to an unsuccessful relationship. He hopes to prevent her any future harm by telling her to essentially lock in her feelings.
Despite their similarities, it’s important to observe Plutarch defensive advice as one that is more extensive. Feelings, character, and disposition are to be guarded, not just feelings that may come with love. On the other hand, Kanye is directly singing about love, specifically unrequited love. His perspective is tailored to a more couple based situation, while Plutarch’s advice is far reaching, including public and private encounters.
Plutarch’s Advice to the Bride and Groom and A Consolation to His Wife